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If indeed there is a problem, then it is not in the youth themselves, but rather in the way we, as adults, tackle the problem and this would be solved by knowing and finding out sincerely how to get closer to and working with them on it.
A youth is made to become a crisis by the environment around him, be it in the house, school, street, institution or even the mosque, we may not be interacting with them properly despite knowing how sensitive this age group may be. Instead we treat them with severity and harshness, using insults and finally branding them as a 'problems'. The youth may be looked upon as that small child who did not grow up, but we should not put more pressure on them by prohibiting things, which God has never made haram. In such circumstances, the boy or girl falls back on the people closest to them and here he/she may receive insufficient or deficient understanding. The child who is denied affectionate contact may become withdrawn, keeping himself aloof and in solitude where the possibility of creating an imaginary world of fantasy and violence becomes very real because of the belief that they were either mistreated or misunderstood.
The Holy Prophet (s.a.w) has said:
"The Parents must not be stubborn with their child, just as the child must not disobey the parents." What parents need to do is to read and understand the Holy Qur'an with the intention of learning how to bring up a child.
The words of exhortation used in the Qur'an wherein Luqman counsels his son, are designed to expand our horizons on matters of doctrine and life. Therefore, we see the method of encouragement in the Holy Qur'an is to articulate life issues, and thus it pushes the idea closer to experiences retained in the mind. On the same note there is a saying that 'he who does not have an exhorter within himself cannot benefit from an exhorter.' This means that a person can be encouraged only through himself.
As Imam Ali ('a.s) has said in Nahjul Balagha:
"The best of what you experience is that which encourages you." On this basis, we therefore find that one type of lesson is given by personal actions. The Holy Qur'an says:
"Why do you preach that which you do not do?"
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